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Mel B's daughter Phoenix, 22, relives harrowing moment she saw her mother endure domestic abuse


Mel B’s daughter Phoenix has opened up about the harrowing moment she witnessed her popstar mum endure physical abuse at the hands of her ex-husband Stephen Belafonte. 

The singer split from Stephen, 46, in 2017 and claimed he had emotionally and physically abused her during their 10-year marriage – allegations which he has vehemently denied.     

Phoenix, who is now 22, reflected on her experiences growing up after hearing her mum and step-dad fighting ‘two floors above’ her basement bedroom when she was a teenager.

Heartbreaking: Mel B's daughter Phoenix has opened up about the harrowing moment she witnessed her popstar mum endure physical abuse (pictured last month)

Heartbreaking: Mel B’s daughter Phoenix has opened up about the harrowing moment she witnessed her popstar mum endure physical abuse (pictured last month) 

Phoenix, who now goes into schools to teach kids about consent, told The Sun: ‘I sneaked out of my room and looked through a gap in the stairs just to check Mum was OK.

‘Then I went back to my room in the basement. But a few minutes later, I heard more screaming and shouting. She was yelling, ‘Stop, get off! Then I heard some thumps.

‘I went upstairs again and saw Stephen with his pants down and my mum pushed over the couch. I froze but I knew there was nothing I could do.’

Phoenix – who turns 23 this month – admitted she struggled to sleep despite having to go to school the next morning describing it as ‘family life’. 

Abuse: Phoenix, who is now 22, reflected on her experiences growing up after hearing her mum and step-dad fighting 'two floors above' her basement bedroom when she was a teenager

Abuse: Phoenix, who is now 22, reflected on her experiences growing up after hearing her mum and step-dad fighting ‘two floors above’ her basement bedroom when she was a teenager

Having witnessed some of the worst attacks on her mum, the upcoming reality star recalled how she was ‘too frightened, too young and too helpless’ having nowhere to turn for help at the time. 

She went on to tell the publication how she would go back to her room and lay on her bed ‘staring terrified into the darkness.’  

Phoenix’s mum, Mel said she finds it ‘very disturbing’ and she has ‘no clear memory’ of the incident her daughter described to her ghost writer, due to her PTSD blocking out the trauma. 

She said: ‘Knowing what my daughter saw kills me’.

Split: The singer split from Stephen, 46, in 2017 and claimed he had abused her during their 10-year marriage - something which he has always vehemently denied (pictured 2016)

Split: The singer split from Stephen, 46, in 2017 and claimed he had abused her during their 10-year marriage – something which he has always vehemently denied (pictured 2016) 

Mel and Stephen secretly married in 2007 and split in 2017.

They share one daughter, Madison Brown Belafonte, 10 – and Mel has two children from previous relationships: Phoenix who she shares with ex husband Jimmy Gulzar and Angel Iris Murphy Brown, 14, who she co-parents with Eddie Murphy.

The mother-of-three claimed she was financially abused during her marriage to Stephen, having no access to her own money.

Mel admitted while she is renowned for being ‘confident and outspoken as Scary Spice’ – and despite feeling ‘at home’ on stage, she believed many may have viewed her as the last person to feel ‘totally trapped and alone’ in her marriage.

She previously told The Sun: ‘Paralysed with fear, I woke up trembling from another nightmare. I couldn’t breathe until I knew that I was safe and my girls were safe. This happened for years after I left my abusive partner – but this is the reality of surviving an abusive relationship.

Turbulent relationship: Mel and Stephen secretly married in 2007 and split in 2017 (pictured in 2012)

Turbulent relationship: Mel and Stephen secretly married in 2007 and split in 2017 (pictured in 2012) 

 ‘I wanted to literally physically scrape myself clean of my abusive ex-partner, but it’s harder to scrape away the memories and start to repair the emotional damage.

‘Flashbacks from living in a coercively controlling relationship are constant, as is the need to find order in your own life. I found myself writing lists and reordering my clothes and belongings.’  

Last month, Mel was awarded an MBE for her work with domestic violence charity Women’s Aid to help other people who suffered in abusive relationships.

The Spice Girl was named in the New Year Honours for services to charitable causes and vulnerable women, and she declared: ‘This, for me, was all about them’.

Bold: Mel, known as Scary Spice, rose to fame as a member of the Spice Girls in the nineties (pictured on stage at The BRIT Awards in 1997)

Bold: Mel, known as Scary Spice, rose to fame as a member of the Spice Girls in the nineties (pictured on stage at The BRIT Awards in 1997)

Mel said receiving the accolade made her ‘incredibly proud’ as she remembered all the women she had met during her work and to her late father.

Mel’s father Martin died from cancer following an eight-year illness in 2017.

The singer said that after telling her mother the news of her MBE, she had driven to his graveside to share the news with him.

Trauma: Mel  has candidly detailed living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, five years after ending her marriage to Stephen (pictured on Steph's Packed Lunch recently)

Trauma: Mel  has candidly detailed living with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, five years after ending her marriage to Stephen (pictured on Steph’s Packed Lunch recently) 

What is post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)?

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder caused by very stressful, frightening or distressing events. 

People with PTSD often suffer nightmares and flashbacks to the traumatic event and can experience insomnia and an inability to concentrate.    

Symptoms are often severe enough to have a serious impact on the person’s day-to-day life, and can emerge straight after the traumatic event or years later. 

PTSD is thought to affect about 1 in every 3 people who have a traumatic experience, and was first documented in the First World War in soldiers with shell shock.

People who are worried they have PTSD should visit their GP, who could recommend a course of psychotherapy or anti-depressants. 

Combat Stress operate a 24-hour helpline for veterans, which can be reached on 0800 138 1619.  

 

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